Break the old habit and institute the new habit.
Meditate moment-by-moment and catch yourself when you’re drawn into negativity or low confidence, so you can unhook from it. Use your will and change your mind.
Imagine yourself as confident and believe it. Fake it until you make it.
Take up martial arts. Martial arts are a confidence booster.
One tool that can help is positive autosuggestion. Please click HERE
Another tool is to get a subliminal audio or video.
Here are suggestions for meditation and daily life:
MEDITATION INSTRUCTION:
1) Off the cushion: Practice witnessing-monitoring meditation. Incorporate constant mindfulness meditation throughout your day to distance yourself from your thoughts, emotions, and sensations. Having some distance can free you from being compelled by your senses. As Viktor Frankl said, between stimulus and response there is a space, that space is our freedom to choose. Practice the art of non-attachment and willpower and only focus on positive or neutral thoughts and emotions. If your mind goes negative and you can’t change your mind, observe your thoughts, emotions, and sensations from a distance, knowing that they too shall pass. Disidentify with the negative and reside as the detached yet compassionate witnessing Awareness that you are. The Awareness within which everything arises, stays for some time, and dissolves back into. The Awareness that is being everyone and everything.
2) On the cushion: Set aside formal meditation time once or twice a day, sitting in a meditation posture, and practice techniques such as counting breaths. Here is a recommended example of a good formal meditation practice, please click HERE Gradually increase your sitting time from a few minutes to 30 minutes per session or more. That will build a strong Center that you can take with you as you move throughout your life and strengthen you to be able to perform the witnessing-monitoring meditation.
It’s crucial to practice patience with yourself and avoid getting discouraged if progress seems slow, as retraining the mind and emotions takes time.